Some folks enjoy gathering around the holiday table visiting and reminiscing about the good ol days. But for some, table time can be painful, especially when old stories become fodder for “digging in” and humiliating others. I believe there are positive ways to deal with bad table manners that can change course, providing a more…

Porn is an Idol Pornography encourages a person to elevate self. It’s the opposite of being in a healthy relationship. Who would want to be in a relationship where: one person gets to focus exclusively on what is attractive defined by me what is physically satisfying in a relationship defined by me what is happiness defined by me…

“Fear not” is a common command that we read from God’s word, the Bible. “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deut.  31:6 So do not fear, for I am with you;  do…

On Target My wife, Lynne, and I went to the shooting range the other day. We do our best to hit the mark but, truth be told, we both could use some coaching. My wife then noticed a bright looking young man assisting another woman with her aim, so she too asked for assistance. Next…

Valentine’s month and love is in the air. As a therapist counseling hundreds of couples over the past 30 years, I can tell you, love can be a challenge no matter what the calendar says. And as a counselor, I have the unique perspective to evaluate which couples seem to struggle more than others. I…

Don’t be impulsive. When there is a decision to be made; sleep on it. Give your mind time to process and weigh benefits and consequences. As Christians we pray for wisdom and seek God’s will on every situation. Don’t choose the easy way. The easy way is usually the hardest way in disguise. Things that…